Sunday, August 28, 2011

Kneeling

As u already have noticed, i created a bunch of captions related to the topic at hand. To keep the whole thing lighthearted, and to make long stories a bit shorter, eh? Naturally developed for ur entertainment, empowerment, arousal, and happiness as well. So enjoy. Well, if u can. Pay especially attention to the last one, where it gets more serious again!

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"It often takes a strong man to kneel at the feet of his wife." Not an exact quote, but words to the same effect were recently written in a blog of a woman who says she’s in a “fem/dom” marriage.

Within no time there was an avalanche of praise for her wisdom. Not surprisingly, as nowadays Cyberspace is bombarded with the thoughts of people who r in, what they call, a FLR (Female Led Relationship) or FLH (Female Led Household). A FLR is mainly characterized by women who subscribe to the idea of the “loving female authority”, and men who long to serve their spouse by doing dishes, laundry, ironing, making tea for her and her friends, and…….kneel at her feet. Quite often said males also crave to run around with a device attached to their genitalia preventing them from jerking off. Sometimes they love to watch their wives getting fucked by other men too. To make this look and sound more sophisticated, they call this cuckolding. All this is thought to be only possible for truly strong and special males, strictly led by powerful and loving females. It seems these people need to constantly convince themselves, and others, what a rare and special breed they r. Which of cors they r not. At best they’re at the periphery of their vanilla culture, experimenting a bit with mainly deep seated male fantasies and frustrations. Rarely will this result in the “real thing”, as they always find excuses for not taking "the last step", i.e. "the kids", "work", "parents", "society", and Lilith knows what.


Aficionados of FLR often mistakenly think their practice and intended role reversal (some call this "power exchange" lol), is similar to femdom, which of cors it is not.

I commented at that time:

"It often takes a strong man...."? That's how it is pictured yes. But is it true? Or is it simply hearsay? Maybe wishful thinking too? Do u speak from own experience perhaps? In that case, how many men knelt at ur feet so u felt safe enough to generalize from that?

Did i get an answer? No.

The man to whom initially her blog was directed to, commented:

"I agree with you 100% that it takes a strong man to kneel at the feet of His Lady. Like a Knight with his Queen."

Since this man was a follower of my blog, and belonged to a people i have a special bond with, i replied:

"…….it certainly doesn't take a strong man to kneel at the feet of a woman. It's really nothing actually. Quite simple even. Easiest thing in the world i’d say. Try it, and u'll see. Well...um.....unless ur legs had to be amputated after they were hit by a Hezbollah shell or something."

Combined with a few other exchanges the 2 of us had, this was enough for him to stop following me, and to delete my comments from his blog. I’m sure he’s still pouting, hehehe.

Seriously now. Why all the fuzz? Why should it be so difficult to go down on ur knees? Why should it be such a big thing to kneel at the feet of ur wife, gf, or any other woman? Besides, what’s the point? If a dominant woman tells u to go down on ur knees, u just go, no? U simply do as u r told, no? No strength needed for that at all. On the contrary, it would take a strong man to not go down then. And if she doesn’t order u to kneel, then what the heck r u doing down there in the first place eh?

Some believe that kissing a woman’s feet is an act of respect and love, or a reward for "good" behavior. I think it’s more an act based on ancient patriarchal thinking and medieval courtliness, and particularly rooted in the rites, dogmas, and rituals of monotheistic religions, where guilt, penitence, sacrifice, humility, and bowing down to a superior being r the driving forces. Add to this the hypocrisy of all these whining self-professed submissive males, who actually don’t want to give up control, et voilá, their struggle with bowing down to a woman is explained. It’s a major sacrifice for them. So no wonder they want to be seen as strong and special.

Kneeling at the feet of a woman has nothing to do with femdom, and the only time i would consider to order a men to get down on his knees, would be in a vanilla situation when, for instance, i have him at gunpoint.









16 comments:

  1. Some believe that kissing a woman’s feet is an act of respect and love, or a reward for "good" behavior. I think it’s more an act based on ancient patriarchal thinking and medieval courtliness, and particularly rooted in the rites, dogmas, and rituals of monotheistic religions, where guilt, penitence, sacrifice, humility, and bowing down to a superior being r the driving forces. Add to this the hypocrisy of all these whining self-professed submissive males, who actually don’t want to give up control, et voilá, their struggle with bowing down to a woman is explained. It’s a major sacrifice for them. So no wonder they want to be seen as strong and special.

    I'm stealing this one. In one paragraph, you seem to have summed up much of what annoys me about what I call "the Pink blogs," the FLR folks who are, as you say, simply on the vanilla fringe.

    Of course, I should be careful what I say, since my own blog is called "The Edge of Vanilla," right?

    BTW, regarding your last captioned pic: I would prefer not to wear a woman's outfit, myself. The whole idea behind "feminization" squicks me a bit. I can't quite explain why.

    Also, nice caps. Too bad most people won't understand them.

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  2. I don't care so much if one is vanilla or not, Tom. But what i can't stand is people pretending NOT to be vanilla, while they r.

    I'm ok with males who want to run around in female clothing, although most of them look ridiculous in them. But, like i expressed many times b4, sexy she-males can turn me on. What i can't stand is males who find this humiliating, as they r simply misogynists, hiding their true character by pretending to be submissive to women.

    Oh, i think most will understand them captions very well, but will be too afraid, or too lame, to admit this.

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  3. "But what i can't stand is people pretending NOT to be vanilla, while they r. "

    I think that some people are so entrenched in the media-driven conceptions that they don't realize it, themselves. These are the people who can only imagine FLR as simply the inverse of the "traditional" 1950s relationship.

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  4. I think they DO realize this, but happily use this as an excuse to play dumb. Hmmmmm, maybe they're just dumb?

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  5. Hmmmmm, maybe they're just dumb?

    That's what I'm trying to say!

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  6. It doesn't matter much if most people don't understand, or if the feudal knights and queens of d/s get it or not. Blogs like this make a difference for those few who want that difference.

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  7. What a nice comment Foxy. And so true too :)

    Guess it's the price we have to pay for standing out of the crowd. But it's nothing compared to the price that has to be paid by the ones who stay in it, who refuse to come to terms with their inner voice telling them to leave the damned thing, and rather convince themselves and their peers they actually did leave, and by doing so, sank even deeper in a fake comfort zone which in the end only will provide them with agony, frustration, guilt, self-hate, the feeling to have betrayed the core of their personality, and never will give them comfort.

    But maybe they won’t get this either, and will live happily ever after in mediocrity, supported by other members of the Sad Vanilla Clan.

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  8. I see u made it against all odds after all Paula! Good for u! But this is what u called, "a lovely long, detailed reply" (grin)?

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  9. I have many things to do.

    I got on finally. I'm happy with that. I'm not good with this site. Let me figure it out. I'm a newbie.

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  10. I read this blog a couple months ago and couldn't comment (something wrong with my computer or blogger account), but I'm back which shows what a great blog this is. Highly entertaining and makes me take another look at things. I don't fully agree, though. There's an earlier origin point than feudal kings making the losers of battles kiss their boots. Humans are social animals, like dogs and apes, more evolved but with many of the same instincts. A dog showing submission to a potential pack leader looks a lot like a human kneeling to another human. Those instincts run deep and are a part of our culture and sexuality. I don't think submissive men and dominant women, who have an urge to express those desires, should deny themselves that urge simply because dominant men already did it. I get what you mean, that it takes a strong man to kneel at the feet of a woman, because "what the F? Who would do that?" I get how that could be insulting, or demeaning, to women, but I don't think it necessarily is. I think it's complicated.

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  11. The dominant men u r talking about only exist in the vanilla world, as do the instincts (if they exist) u mentioned.

    But of cors, people who have a knack for kneeling should not deny themselves that pleasure. Surely it can have its place within the realm of vanilla d/s. But like i said, it has nothing to do with femdom.

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  12. neither does being submissive! femdom is the fantsy kink world where submissive men are abused and taken advantage of because of their sexual fetishes,if they were truely submissive and ruled by a true queen there wouldnt be a need for the ass kissing you're receiving here..lol this is simply a sex site where men come to jerk off and woman come to wish they had a real man!!

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