Saturday, February 11, 2012
"There's something radiating from a domina or a slave. When they meet, it makes them understand each other just by their body language. I often compare the two with a hyperbola, of which the two parts r completely separate, close or far away from the other, and still belong to the same entity."
The above was part of a discussion i had a few years ago with a man from Denmark. One of the better ones i must say, and not one of those who talk a lot online, but never would dare to follow up on their sexual impulses in r/l.
The hyperbola is one way to describe a femdom relationship. Another analogy can be found in quantum mechanics, called entanglement. It’s a beautiful concept, and although it took a long time to scientifically prove its existence, there’s no doubt anymore, it’s truly a part of our world. And coincidence or not, it was in Copenhagen that the pioneers of quantum physics (Heisenberg, Bohr) were working on its interpretation.
In the femdom world entanglement simply means that from the moment a slave interacts with a domina, the bond is there forever, and in such a way that even when they r far apart, any change in one of the partners will have consequences for the other one. That’s why, even when i have dismissed a slave, he/she will never be free from me, my thoughts, my actions, and my will. And to a certain extent, vice versa. But only if she/he is indeed a slave, and not a caricature of same. Of cors it goes without saying that most i sent away belong to the latter.
Mind u tho, contrary to us, in the vanilla world a sexual relationship defined by entanglement is seen as highly objectionable, and can only be damaging to the happiness of a couple (grin).
Both analogies r congruent with what i wrote elsewhere: “In fact, a slave is the mirror of a femdom. Just as mean, cruel, driven, egoistic, sexy, seductive, hungry, elegant, stubborn, moody, beautiful, passionate, unfair, erratic, powerful, humorous, revengeful, poisonous, lovable, and always on the road to go beyond the next horizon. The difference is, they operate from a different dimension.”
The Man from Denmark had a question. Well…..um….. a few of them.
If the slave is a mirror of the femdom - and I know you are right, egoistic, elegant, sexy.......etc. etc. etc, what keeps the two together in the hyperbola?
The gravity force is clearly seduction, but that is just the mechanics. What is the drive that keeps the hyperboles in place, keeping both of them never to consider anything but themselves and yet keep getting attracted to the other?
Could it be loyalty? Both must carry the ability to "love intensely but rarely?" - It must be so - Loyalty, l am of course thinking about loyalty in spirit and not in flesh, is the only way a relationship can be established and keep the two together........
It would seem a contradiction that two selfish people can be loyal to each other. But, hopefully not (yes, I know your concept of hope... ;-)....... such a loyalty must definitely be a rarity!!!
So yes – true feminine femdom is rare. Just consider, if some women have the ability, then even fewer men carry the trade to "love intensely but rarely". So maybe men of the right mold are the limit for feminine femdom, and not the women.
Do you agree – loyalty is essential?
Now isn’t that a handful of assumptions, or what? “Love intensely but rarely?” Yeah right! “The gravity force is clearly seduction”? Mmmmm, maybe partly. “That two selfish people…..” Selfish? Come on. Seriously? How so?
Anyway, the main thing was loyalty, to which i wrote:
Loyalty? Nice that. Especially when in need to fight vanillas. Can even strengthen the bond, giving warm feelings and joy. But essential? Nah, not really. What keeps them together is simply the will of the domina, her passion to own the powerful ones, her desire to keep a slave or not. It is a mistake, to think that vanilla values could be of major importance in the world of ffd. Like i said many times b4, a slave has no voice here, no vote, and no rights. But………he/she is free, and encouraged, to seduce me to change my mind, and to behave differently, lol.
The Man from Denmark:
I don't understand what loyalty has to do with vanilla???
Loyalty is in my book one of the true values in life. If you think about loyalty in the sense of a connection bond between two people - an unspoken force but which both understand is essential - what else would make you keep a slave? What else would drive the slave to throw him/herself at your feet over and over again? Of cause there is greed and seduction, but as you pointed out the forces in the hyperbola are strong and can easily diverge...... If there were no loyalty how could there be "intense but rare love"?
Oh my, this man was still struggling with his “intense but rare love”. Rather incoherently too. And then this “throw him/herself at your feet” thingy? Vanilla, vanilla, vanilla!
And i explained to him:
As a business women, one day, someone handed to me a few books authored by Fred Reicheld, a man known for his writings on loyalty. Some even call him the Guru of Loyalty. Loyalty is for him, “the willingness to make an investment or personal sacrifice to strengthen a relationship.” Now how vanilla is that eh? Quite useful tho. It really helped me a lot to brainwash, indoctrinate, and manipulate employees, CEO’s, and business partners. I found it even useful when it came to binding rich clients to me. I mean of cors, in a more vanilla way (grin).
This was just an example. There r zillions of people, who made it their quest, to explain to us what loyalty was, is, should be, has to be, will be, etc. Like with so many intangible concepts, it’s completely eroded nowadays, as everybody, including u, has his/her own opinion, definition, and/or version. What’s written in ur book, may be blasphemy in someone else’s scripture, etc. Isn’t that the vanilla way to do things?
Lao Tse once wrote:
"When people lost sight of the way to live
Came codes of love and honesty,
Learning came, charity came,
Hypocrisy took charge;
When differences weakened family ties
Came benevolent fathers and dutiful sons;
And when lands were disrupted and misgoverned
Came ministers commended as loyal.”
Now THAT’s what i can relate to. His words come close to my own knowledge, ideas, and feelings regarding this concept. So no loyalty crap in my house! I only keep/allow a slave around me, as long as he/she is turning me on, is enriching my life, is keeping me on my toes (yeah yeah, even when not parading in 6” heels), is fun to be with, and has a body to die for. But never cos i have some kind of obligation to him/her, or whatever. Doesn’t mean i couldn’t be there for him/her when needed, but loyalty would never be the driving force for that. When it comes right down to it, loyalty is crippling passion between people, like any artificial tool, which was created to replace the unique, intimate, and unspoken force (ur words lol) between two humans. It’s just another example of vanillas having the need to always have something outside themselves to cling to, and to rule/govern their life.
".....what else would drive the slave to throw him/herself at your feet over and over again?" Well, well, well, lmao! Would.....not being able to leave me without my consent, not having another choice, unable to imagine any other owner, and a quenchless thirst for more of my delicious cruelty and poisonous love, being acceptable reasons for u?
Due to lessons, taught by false prophets, politicians, pastors, and pathological shrinks, it became very common in the vanilla world, in order to avoid guilt and shame, to sublimate, and even replace, primal lust, basic emotions, and the longing for raw sex, by so called higher drives like loyalty. But not here, not in That Place, and not in the Labyrinth. Here we acknowledge and cherish the powers coming from our limbic system, as we recognize and celebrate those coming from our neo-cortex as well. Here these powers r not opposites, or in contradiction with each other. They r essential ingredients, making our hyperbola even more exciting than she already was in her rudimentary form.
Add to this now the idea of entanglement, and we will soon be crossing yet another horizon in the world of feminine femdom, leaving loyalty and his vanilla brethren far behind in the kindergarten of sex.