Dominant housewives and company (part 1)

Intro

The other day i landed on a blog of which the owner, back in 2009, criticized the work of Nanshakh. As if this wasn’t already bad enough by itself, his assessment of this great femdom illustrator came across to me like one from a person who found some flaws in the ideology of Zionism and therefore condemned the whole movement including the state of Israel, or one who detected there was something not completely kosher with Obamacare and for that reason considered all medical insurance evil and demonic. I won’t tell u who this person was, cos it was Steve from The Glow Inside.

It also appeared that Steve believes that femdom doesn’t exist. According to what i could pick up from his prose and his comments on the matter during our brief exchange of thoughts, femdom for him is just a fantasy created by and to amuse males. Given the immense amount of nonsense told, written, and emptied into the sewers of the Internet by zillions of self proclaimed d/s connoisseurs on an hourly basis, i can imagine poor Steve could not come to a different conclusion. Mainstream femdom is based on male fantasy indeed and is far from the practices of women who were born dominant and live accordingly. Still, Sir Steve should have looked beyond his nose. He said he did, but i saw no sign of this. I told him about feminine femdom, and directed him to a few urls on my site. To no avail. The only thing he said he could conclude from my site was that i was a hypocrite, "……widely dismissive and scornful of the lifestyles of many others……." and "….. every time I read your blog – which is not that often I admit – I feel like I am being berated about my own inadequacy and then schooled in the ‘correct’ path, which always sounds very vague to me." The urls i sent him? "……sorry lady, but I just read through some more paragraphs of scorn heaped upon your beloved enemy, vanilla femdom, with not much idea of what you really do."

And then i thought: Hey, let me write another "dismissive and scornful" one. So, if u have any complaints, direct them to Steve. This blog and the next one r all his fault!

I’m sure u already suspect what’s coming ur way (again, hehehe). And yes u r right. This time i’ll aim at housewives. Not housewives in general mind u. Oh no. Too many great females among them for that. And i truly respect (well, with a certain smile dripping from leniency and goodwill eh?) the ones who sacrifice themselves on the altar of their spouse’s desire to be led, disciplined, and play second fiddle in the home. A true "exchange of power", hehehe. Yep, that’s what these men r after. Not that they would have possessed any significant power b4 that illusionary revolution, but still, for them it’s monumental, lol. Or is it only a feeble attempt to come to that?

Of cors these women know perfectly well they’re only playing along, and wouldn’t even think to claim otherwise. Some of them get depressed during the never ending process. Some of them feel lost after a while and need to constantly reconfirm their new role. Some of them learn the hard way that their husband is a wimp, and can’t take it when the wife truly takes over the reins. But these ladies r sincere and love their men. And they show it too! Still, it’s a world upside down.

So what will be my target today? Read on :)

State of affairs

We have desperate housewives, real housewives, suburban housewives, so on. But did u know there also r dominant housewives? No? Does domestic goddesses ring a bell? These days one can meet them everywhere. Especially on the Internet. And they blog, blog, and blog some more. When done blogging, they go to sleep. Or desperately continue searching for a man who needs a surrogate mom. Or look for porn. Femdom porn to be specific. Not that they r femdoms themselves eh? Far from that. Nevertheless they insist they r. And don’t tell them they’re not, cos then they’ll get nasty, lose control, start calling u names, and turn to their equally misguided followers to get rescued from evil people like urs truly. Time and again i did my best to explain to them who and what they really r. It didn’t help. I found no hearing. Can u imagine?

These self proclaimed dominants r not a new phenomenon. Their type inhabits planet Earth already for ages. We all know for instance the tales of Xanthippe (or maybe not?), and the way she allegedly treated poor Socrates. Molière called them les femmes savantes. A great specimen is Philaminte (played by a man, lol. Yes cross-dressing was already in back then, hehehe), a vain woman who believes she’s very sophisticated, irresistible, learned, and special. She intimidates and humiliates her husband (hubby or subhubby nowadays), and keeps him under her thumb. Really a true sub-archetype of her kind. More or less like Dufresny’s Madame Prenelle and her laughable husband Jeannot. Many followed in the footsteps of these characters, reinforced and supported in their belief to be dominant by the flattery of menfolk seeking to satisfy their equally lame idea of being a slave while in fact they’re nothing more than a henpecked husband.

Now don’t get me wrong eh? And don’t u dare to put words into my mouth! I’ll be the last one to deny these women and their acolytes adding a little bit of zest to their vanilla lives. But they r mega hardheaded u know, unshaken in their rigid and rusty beliefs, constantly declaring they r dominants to the backbone, while at the same time making excuses for not being dominant 24/7/365. Especially when they’re having kids still in the phase of terrorizing their homes, their dominance is going into hiding as soon as the little rascals r around. They write numerous blogs to explain all this, ending mostly with a definition of femdom which covers their specific way of living and the message that they have a sacred right for doing so. Of cors these dames know they r wrong, and r only corrupting the concept of femdom. Or could it be they’re that delusional? I’m sure some of them r, lol.

I can only guess their reasons for acting like that, but whatever they r, it’s stupid to hijack something that u didn’t want to own in the first place and never will/could be urs anyway. How do i know that? Oh, i came around u know? That should be sufficient no? It isn’t? Well, ok, i’ll lift part of the veil. Understand well tho, it’s not coming from hearsay. I would never claim to have knowledge about anything if i didn’t have at least some firsthand experience of it. For instance, i would never tell people what should be done or not in a war zone or how one makes decisions when under mortar fire, if i hadn’t be in situations like that myself. I leave the latter to women like the one who (rightly so) believes her dominance is a bit disheveled and who was only too eager to lecture me about war, basing same only on what she learned from some of her family members who happened to be (once) in the military. I would have provided a link to show u this, but she removed 22 comments of the original 51, so that wouldn’t make much sense to do. Yes, it’s like my outstanding friend Raposo Neves once wrote: "To contribute to the conversation" around these parts means saying the same as everybody else, just with different words. Indeed, as soon as it gets a bit out of the mainstream bubble, controversial, interesting, hot, or challenging, these people favor to be in denial of reality.

So again, how do i know? From having met plenty of this breed the time i still was visiting conferences on bdsm, fetish clubs, and munches. From having read books on the subject by writers like Elise Sutton (and angrily dismissed their patriarchal based femdom). From having participated in Yahoo Groups discussions and a litany of forums. From reading blogs. From having had online conversations with some of these people. Of cors also from the time i was involved with mainstream d/s myself. And i won’t even mention my ability to look into the soul of anyone i would target for it, to break down their defenses in a minimum of time, and to have on the sly a sneak peek into their hidden and unknown compartments. No, i won’t do that. And neither will i reveal the thoughts of other women like myself on this specific subject, or tell u about the grinning of my slaves when they read blogs like for instance the one of a woman who prefers to come online as one of the Pteridophyta, a reluctant dominant who tells us she’s constantly in trouble, or that female lawyer who believes it’s of utmost importance that men should write tons of lines for punishment. So no, absolutely not. Hmmmm, maybe i will. But not now.

It became clear to me that most of these women r not in it cos they r dominant, but, like the rest of their vanilla sisters, cos they r submissive, illustrating same by going along with the desire of their husband to be dominated by them. Again, as long as they keep from telling me and the rest of the in-crowd how dominant they r, all is fine. Play along, enjoy,  and be happy, but leave femdom to femdoms and stop contaminating my beautiful world.

Many males, allegedly dwelling in the suburbs of the velvet underground, argue that a woman’s dominance can be awakened, that it is only slumbering within her, waiting for Prince Slave to show his Goddess the way to ever happy and prosperous SlaveryLand. I call this desperate wishful thinking, leading to a never ever self-fulfilling prophecy. A woman simply knows if she’s dominant or not. She doesn’t need anybody to tell her that, nor a man to prepare her for her awakening or to manipulate her into that direction. Yes i know. Many women in this medium r trying to convince their readers this fable is true and how they gradually became more and more dominant, how they, after having done some rigorous soul searching, discovered their inner femdom and how they freed themselves from the patriarchal yoke. Yeah right. It’s crap people! Yes, that’s what it is: Crap! Why else would they keep on hiding their so called new found personality from their family, friends, colleagues, and the public in general?  

And don’t get me started on them switches, who after having jump started their dried out vanilla engines, erratically and out of control r navigating from dom-space to sub-spave vv in ssc-space, hahaha. Ridiculous!

Still, as i explained in my blog about Lilith and Eve years ago, there r women among us who r not submissive at heart and would want to be like Lilith, the archetype of freedom, independence, assertiveness, sexual aggression, and honesty. Alas, many of them lack the courage and cultural background to indeed follow in her footsteps and do what their inner voices tell them to do. On the contrary, most of these women choose, willingly or not, to be like Eve, the archetype of submissiveness and dishonesty, camouflaging same by displaying what is called in the culture at force, kindness, warmth, friendliness, altruism, etc. Hence the concept of the “loving female authority” was born. It’s a cunning way of responding to their situation and the sexual desires of males who, like these women, never will go all the way, who never would want to fall into the hands of a woman like me, afraid as they r for women who truly were born to own a stable of slaves, who laugh at d/s monogamy, mock all that nonsense of building a d/s relationship, the responsibility that comes with same, and all the other issues which ad nauseam r discussed in the virtual world and beyond. 

When it comes right down to it, these women r pampering their self proclaimed servants’ ego and sexual urges in order to get from them in return what they want from these men without having even remotely to be dominant. It’s simply the well known vanilla relationship where the woman knows how to play her man, how to wind him round her little finger. Of cors the participating parties will mostly deny this, and insist they’re truly and genuinely working toward a d/s relationship or even r in it already. Call it FLR, WLH, FLH, or whatever, but refrain from calling it d/s or worse………femdom. Cos it is not! 

So, while most women will lead a life according to what the patriarch has designed for them, some females, still feeling the remnants of what Lilith ages ago sowed in the DNA of the female gender, will cultivate these delicate seeds, make them grow and flower again. Then harvest them ruthlessly. Those women r femdoms! Compared to the masses there r only a few of us. But we do exist. We always have. Even in ultra patriarchal societies we survived. Often we r and were described as tyrants, demons, evil witches, monsters, so on. Like it was done for instance with Lilith, Vashti and Morgana le Fay. Done only cos males fear(ed) us and need(ed) to destroy our splendor, resilience, integrity, and strength, for them to be able to uphold their fragile ego and fake dominance. Of cors Eve and Esther became celebrated heroines just cos they bowed to and were servile to their man. 

The sad thing is, that even nowadays so many women r still supporting the patriarch and his outdated and narrow-minded values, norms, ideas, and philosophies, while, since it became trendy in certain circles of their society, at the same time r trying to make others believe of the opposite. The true numbers of femdoms r currently blurred by these so called dominant housewives, other self proclaimed recreational female dominants, and women who want to resist the patriarch but can’t bring themselves to go all the way and leave his world. Their solution? They start(ed) to challenge him without leaving that world, and instead, try to fight him with the same tools he has used to subjugate them since the down of times, to imitate him, and to become his equal. Hence emancipation, feminism, the cry for women’s leadership, and vanilla femdom were born.

Add to this the deep rooted desire of males, including those bragging semi- machos, to be the slave to a woman, the same cowardice never to go for that all the way, and their fear for not complying with the demands of archaic as well as newly developed convictions in their vanilla society, et voilà the inevitable continuation of more of the same, sold as progress, gender equality, and yes, fake female dominance, fake slavery, and fake slaves (often replaced by sub, and worse, by subbie hubby, pet, boi, toy, fucktoy, or whatever derogatory silliness), is a fact and here to stay for a long time to come.

Luctor et emergo?

Oh i did, i did. Rest assured i did. Many times even. And believe me, it wasn’t always an easy thing to do. But they? Nah, not really. Still, they r struggling all right. I mean with their new found dominance eh? Sometimes in a more serious way, other times with clenched teeth and trying to be witty without being humorous, but always in a dull, boring and cliché fashion. If i tell them so, they start knitting their brows, inevitably r coming up with all kinds of crap to get me in line with their vanilla convictions, and in the end will ban me from posting to their precious blogs, forums, or groups.

In one of the blogs i was contributing to till i became her persona non grata, the lady of the house made it her quest to interview numerous awakened housewives and company, asking them an array of non-committal questions during these events. No wonder she repeatedly avoided to respond to my more challenging questions herself. Not that they were really challenging eh? But i'm sure they were interpreted like that, hehe. 

She invited me too, but it never came to that, due to the fact that she couldn’t bear i only would participate without any conditions set. Yep, i’m all for free speech, anti moderation, and alien to censorship. One would expect all dominant women to support this, to think and act like that. And they do u know. It’s them fake dominants pretending to be dominant and r following them destructive rules of them creepy conservative patriarchs, who don’t, not us.

Brace urself for Part 2 :)